Thanh Nguyen
English 215
11/08/2010
FD3
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In life today, honesty is something that we often overlook. People can be dishonest for variety of reasons. Most of the time, they lie for their own benefit, or to get out of trouble. However, those lies might create a bigger problem later on. To me, honesty is the vital link of our lives between people. Almost all the relations we have are based on people's honesty. Honesty is a solid foundation to build up to a better relationship with our families, in our romances, and in our work environment. It is not only for creating relationships, but it also plays a role in speaking out what and how we really feel about something or someone. Without honesty, our lives will fall apart. [THESIS] Therefore, today more than ever, being honest is a key aspect to maintaining one's quality of life[THESIS].
In my classroom's forum, my classmate Megan Young states that, “I think the most compelling reason to be honest all the time is to have a clear conscious.” to which I could not agree more. For many people like Megan, honesty is an essential desirable aspect of their lives and relationships, it forms the foundation for trust relationships and provides the communication necessary for work and romance. According to the survey documents “Decade Of Moral Deterioration”, students indicate that honesty is very important. And 95% agreed with the statement that, “it’s important to me that people trust me.” Interaction among people represent trust. It is a very important keyword in people's relationship. Trust will bring people closer. How can you have a relationship with someone when you do not have communication? And how can you communicate when there is no trust? The answer to those two questions is quite obvious. If there is no trust there will be no relationship. Trust is a very fragile thing and it is easily broken. Once trust is broken, there is the chance that it may never be recovered. Having a relationship means to put your trust in that person by giving them honesty and respect. It is not only for romantic relationships, but also for family members and friends. Honesty helps us to build a solid foundation for our lives.
In my classroom's forum, my classmate Megan Young states that, “I think the most compelling reason to be honest all the time is to have a clear conscious.” to which I could not agree more. For many people like Megan, honesty is an essential desirable aspect of their lives and relationships, it forms the foundation for trust relationships and provides the communication necessary for work and romance. According to the survey documents “Decade Of Moral Deterioration”, students indicate that honesty is very important. And 95% agreed with the statement that, “it’s important to me that people trust me.” Interaction among people represent trust. It is a very important keyword in people's relationship. Trust will bring people closer. How can you have a relationship with someone when you do not have communication? And how can you communicate when there is no trust? The answer to those two questions is quite obvious. If there is no trust there will be no relationship. Trust is a very fragile thing and it is easily broken. Once trust is broken, there is the chance that it may never be recovered. Having a relationship means to put your trust in that person by giving them honesty and respect. It is not only for romantic relationships, but also for family members and friends. Honesty helps us to build a solid foundation for our lives.
The very same concept also applies in people's working relationships. The three most important elements in a working relationship are honesty, consideration, and respect. Most likely the honesty element is the hardest thing to achieve. Without honesty, there is no trust, and without trust, nobody will like to work with you. Respect and consideration can be achieved in several ways, but being honest is the most genuine way of gaining the respect of others. Having people's trust will bring respect and consideration. Being honest is the key to success in your career. On the other hand, there are also many people who believe that too much honesty can be a bad thing, and so they choose not to know about something that could upset their lives. However, from my perspective, I believe that the role honesty plays in our relationships helps to provide us with the highest quality of life.
Honesty is not an easy thing to achieve, but being honest with others means to treat people with respect, even when it is not convenient. There are situations in which giving out the truth could mean informing people of the worst. However, if it is the case that you must tell them the truth, then it is better to do so than to lie. In most cases, people like hearing the truth even when that information could be painful. However, I believe this concept should apply to grown-ups only; in some case it is better not to tell the truth to children when letting them know the truth might hurt them.
According to the article The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying, Dr. Quek Timothy states, “it is difficult for parents to control the lies that children will encounter outside the home, it is more useful to start eliminating lies from within the home”. Today, parents are afraid that their children may become deviant and dishonest, and might even become untrustworthy later on in their lives. Rather than learning dishonesty from the outside environment like school, television, etc.; children learn their first lesson of lying at home. Children always look up to their parents as role models. They learn everything from their parents, even bad habits and dishonesty. For instance, when a ten years old hears his/her mom lie to her friends during a conversation and the child knows that the mom is not telling the truth, then, he/she might think it is okay to lie to others because it is okay for the grown-ups to lie to their friends. Then, when the child goes to school, he/she might practice dishonesty and lies to their teachers or friends because he/she thinks it is okay. Therefore, the roles of being a good parents in this society is very important. It is best for parents to teach children the value of being honest by practicing honesty themselves. That way, the value of honesty will be passed on to our children. Our children today will become leaders of tomorrow. Hence, teaching honesty to our children in the their early stages of life will help them to become trustworthy in their adulthood. And they will one day pass the value of honesty on to their children. Life is made of relationships between people. Honesty will improve those relationships between us. Therefore, teaching our children to be honest will benefit them in the long run, and will surely improve the quality of their lives later on.
In conclusion, being honest is definitely the most essential element in our life relationships. It implants trust inside other people. Honesty is the key for improving our quality of life. It is the foundation to build a strong relationship between family members, friends, lovers, and even co-workers. By teaching honesty to ourselves, and passing it on to our children, we fulfill our roles to our families and society. Helping our children to understand the value of honesty means to teach them to become trustworthy people to build a stronger society in the future. And for us, honesty will bring us respect from the people we interact with in the long-run.
Work-cited:
Quek, Timothy. "The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying.” A Child's Compulsive Lying. April 8, 2003. November 1, 2010. [http://www2.hawaii.edu/~jamess/lying3.htm].
Young, Megan. "Honesty in Employment, White Lie, Honesty". Online posting. Oct 26, 2010. Laulima Discussion. Oct 30. 2010.
[https://laulima.hawaii.edu/portal/site/KAP.XLSENG215js.201110/page/580d9883-374c-4194-bb60-e4e1fe68988c].
"2002 Report Card: The Ethics of American Youth: Press Release and Data Summary." Josephson Institute of Ethics Webpage. October 30, 2010
[http://www.josephsoninstitute.org/Survey2002/survey2002-pressrelease.htm]
Honesty is not an easy thing to achieve, but being honest with others means to treat people with respect, even when it is not convenient. There are situations in which giving out the truth could mean informing people of the worst. However, if it is the case that you must tell them the truth, then it is better to do so than to lie. In most cases, people like hearing the truth even when that information could be painful. However, I believe this concept should apply to grown-ups only; in some case it is better not to tell the truth to children when letting them know the truth might hurt them.
According to the article The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying, Dr. Quek Timothy states, “it is difficult for parents to control the lies that children will encounter outside the home, it is more useful to start eliminating lies from within the home”. Today, parents are afraid that their children may become deviant and dishonest, and might even become untrustworthy later on in their lives. Rather than learning dishonesty from the outside environment like school, television, etc.; children learn their first lesson of lying at home. Children always look up to their parents as role models. They learn everything from their parents, even bad habits and dishonesty. For instance, when a ten years old hears his/her mom lie to her friends during a conversation and the child knows that the mom is not telling the truth, then, he/she might think it is okay to lie to others because it is okay for the grown-ups to lie to their friends. Then, when the child goes to school, he/she might practice dishonesty and lies to their teachers or friends because he/she thinks it is okay. Therefore, the roles of being a good parents in this society is very important. It is best for parents to teach children the value of being honest by practicing honesty themselves. That way, the value of honesty will be passed on to our children. Our children today will become leaders of tomorrow. Hence, teaching honesty to our children in the their early stages of life will help them to become trustworthy in their adulthood. And they will one day pass the value of honesty on to their children. Life is made of relationships between people. Honesty will improve those relationships between us. Therefore, teaching our children to be honest will benefit them in the long run, and will surely improve the quality of their lives later on.
In conclusion, being honest is definitely the most essential element in our life relationships. It implants trust inside other people. Honesty is the key for improving our quality of life. It is the foundation to build a strong relationship between family members, friends, lovers, and even co-workers. By teaching honesty to ourselves, and passing it on to our children, we fulfill our roles to our families and society. Helping our children to understand the value of honesty means to teach them to become trustworthy people to build a stronger society in the future. And for us, honesty will bring us respect from the people we interact with in the long-run.
Work-cited:
Quek, Timothy. "The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying.” A Child's Compulsive Lying. April 8, 2003. November 1, 2010. [http://www2.hawaii.edu/~jamess/lying3.htm].
Young, Megan. "Honesty in Employment, White Lie, Honesty". Online posting. Oct 26, 2010. Laulima Discussion. Oct 30. 2010.
[https://laulima.hawaii.edu/portal/site/KAP.XLSENG215js.201110/page/580d9883-374c-4194-bb60-e4e1fe68988c].
"2002 Report Card: The Ethics of American Youth: Press Release and Data Summary." Josephson Institute of Ethics Webpage. October 30, 2010
[http://www.josephsoninstitute.org/Survey2002/survey2002-pressrelease.htm]
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