Oct 31, 2010
Honesty - The Foundation of Our Lives
In today life, honesty is something that we often overlook. People being dishonest for variety of reasons. Most of the time, they lie for their own benefit, or to get out of trouble. However, that lies may create a bigger problem later on. To me, honesty is the vital link for our lives. Almost every relations we have today are based on people' honesty. It is a solid foundation to build up for a better relationship in our families, romances, and work environment. is not only for relationship, but it also means speaking out what and how we really feel about something or someone. Without honesty, everything will fall apart. [THESIS] Therefore, today more than ever, being honest is a key aspect to maintaining one's quality of life[THESIS].
In my classroom's forum, my classmate Megan Young states that, “I think the most compelling reason to be honest all the time is to have a clear conscious.” to which I couldn't agree more. For many people like Megan, honesty is an essential quality to their lives and relationship, it forms the foundation for trust relationships and communication necessary for work and romance. According to the survey documents “Decade Of Moral Deterioration”, students indicate that honesty is very important. And 95% agreed with the statement that, “it’s important to me that people trust me.” Interaction between people represent trust. It is a very important keyword in people' relationship. Trust will bring people closer. How can you have a relationship with someone when you don't have communication? And how can you communicate when there is no trust? The answer to those two questions is quite obvious; if there is no trust there will be no relationship. Trust is a very fragile thing and it is easily broken. Once trust is broken, there is the chance that it may never be recovered. Having a relationship means to put your trust in that person by giving them honesty and respect. It's not only for romantic relationships, but also for family members and friends, helping to build a solid foundation for people' lives. The very same concept also applies in people's working relationships. The three most important elements in a working relationship are honesty, consideration, and respect. Most likely the honesty element is the hardest thing to achieve. Without honesty, there is no trust, and without trust, nobody will like to work with you. Respect and consideration can be achieved in several ways, but being honest is the most genuine way of gaining the respect of others. Having people's trust will bring respect and consideration. Being honest is the key to success in your career. On the other hand, there are also many people who believe that too much honesty can be a bad thing, and so they choose not to know about something that could upset their lives. However, from my perspective, I believe that the role honesty plays in our relationships helps us to create the highest quality of life.
Being honest is not always easy, but being honest with others means to treat people with respect, even when it is not convenient. There are situations in which giving out the truth could mean informing people of the worst. However, if it is the case that you must tell them the truth, than it is better to do so then to lie. In most cases, people like hearing the truth even when that information may be painful. However, I believe this concept should apply to grown-ups only; in some case it is better not to tell the truth to children when letting them know the truth may hurt them.
According to the article The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying, Dr. Quek Timothy states, “it is difficult for parents to control the lies that children will encounter outside the home, it is more useful to start eliminating lies from within the home”. Today, parents are afraid of their children become deviant and dishonest and may even become untrustworthy later on in their lives. Children witness dishonesty almost everywhere like school, television, etc. Rather, they learned their first lesson of lying from home. Children always look up to their parents as role models. They learn everything from their parents, even bad habits and dishonesty. For instance, when a ten years old hears his/her mom lies to her friend during a conversation and the child knows that the mom is not telling the truth, then, he/she may think it's okay to lie to others because it's okay for the grown-ups to lie to their friends. Then, when the child go to school, he/she may practice dishonesty and lies to their teachers or friends because he/she think it's okay. Therefore, the roles of being good parents in this society is very important. It is to teach children the value of honest by practicing honesty themselves. Then, that value will pass on to our children. Our children today will become leaders of tomorrow. Hence, teaching the value of honesty to our children in the their early stages of life will help them to become trustworthy in their adulthood. And they will one day pass the value of honesty on to their children. Life is made of relationship between people. Honesty will improve the connection between us. Therefore, teaching our children to be honest will benefit them in the long run. It will surely improve the quality of their lives later on.
In conclusion, being honest is definitely the most essential element in our life relationships. It implants trust inside other people. Honesty is the key for improving our quality of life. It is the foundation to build a strong relationship between family members, friends, lovers, and even co-workers. By teaching honesty to ourselves, and passing it on to our children, we fulfill our roles to our families and society. Helping our children to understand the value of honesty means to teach them to become trustworthy people to build a stronger society in the future. And for us, honesty will bring us respect from the people we interact with in the long-run.
Work-cited:
Quek, Timothy. "The Truth about a Child's Compulsive Lying.” A Child's Compulsive Lying. April 8, 2003. November 1, 2010. [http://www2.hawaii.edu/~jamess/lying3.htm].
Young, Megan. "Honesty in Employment, White Lie, Honesty". Online posting. Oct 26, 2010. Laulima Discussion. Oct 30. 2010.
[https://laulima.hawaii.edu/portal/site/KAP.XLSENG215js.201110/page/580d9883-374c-4194-bb60-e4e1fe68988c].
"2002 Report Card: The Ethics of American Youth: Press Release and Data Summary." Josephson Institute of Ethics Webpage. October 30, 2010
[http://www.josephsoninstitute.org/Survey2002/survey2002-pressrelease.htm]
please review my paper...
ReplyDeleteYour paper is readable and it addresses one of the focuses that we were supposed to write about. Your paper has a works cited section, you do make the word count requirement, and your formatting is correct. I liked your paper because you had good points. However, you have grammar errors. Some of the tenses are mixed up or some sentences are incomplete. Make sure to capitalize the letters after a period. In the top left corner, write the assignment “RD3” instead of the title because the title is supposed to be centered a line below.
ReplyDeleteYou do have a introduced your topic and included your thesis in the first paragraph and the rest of your paper supports your thesis. I would suggest to edit the grammar within your paper. Your conclusion sums up your paper. I believe in the directions, it stated to add a personal experience, so you can add that into your paper. Also, you may want to add an argument against your thesis to avoid “card stacking.” I hope my evaluation helped. Good luck on your FD3!
-Teryn Tadani
Thanh,
ReplyDeleteGood concluding paragraph! While I did get lost in parts of the essay, the concluding paragraph managed to sum everything up nicely.
Overall, your paper succeeded in sticking to the assignment (with emphasis #4), exceeded the required word-count, and followed basic formatting rules, as Teryn mentioned, your biggest problem was grammatical and sentence structure errors. Although I know you have some really good ideas in the paper, they get lost because of these simple errors. I found that it helps to read your paper aloud to correct some of these grammar, and verb tense errors.
Secondly, the second paragraph seemed very long and you should strongly consider splitting up the paragraph. An easy breaking point would be when you begin discussing the three most important elements of a working relationship.
Third, try to remember that this is meant to be a graduation address. Though you did address the honesty topic, you did not ever mention the class you are speaking to.
Also, although you had a works cited section and referenced the works in the text, you did not cite the “Decade of Moral Deterioration” documents you referenced in the second paragraph.
You have the start of a good paper Thanh but be sure to at the very least proofread for grammatical errors before your final draft submission. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Russell Romano-Kelly
Thanh,
ReplyDeleteYou have a lot of great points in your paper.It is clear that you are passionate about what you are writing. I would suggest that you re-read your paper as there are a few grammatical errors and misspellings.
As Russell also pointed out, you are missing the survey you referenced in your paper in your works cited, so don't forget to add that.
I think if you split the second and fourth paragraphs, it will help with organization. Like I said, lots of good information, just needs to be separated into multiple paragraphs.
Overall, great job and good luck on your final draft!
Kelli Tsukamoto
Thanh,
ReplyDeleteYour draft is readable, and is free from strange characters and symbols. It has a word count of 1,013 which meets the length requirement of 1000-1500 words. It addresses the topic, however be a little more aggressive and firm with what you are trying to say. Continue your thoughts within one sentence as it allows instead of breaking it down into multiple sentences.
You’ve only included one quote from an article; it is required to include a minimum of two. Also There were grammatical errors and mechanical problems throughout your draft. Be sure to review the mechanics sections on the left sidebar of our class blog. Your draft follows the MLA formatting and so does the works cited section. It has an original title, but include additional spacing before the title. Revise the format of the date and don’t forget to include “FD3” after the date.
Review and revise your draft, and you will be well on your way to producing an excellent FD3!
thanks Russell. i think i did referent that survey. I actually used the Original Website to referent it, not from our reading. So, basically, it's the same
ReplyDeletei do have two quotes from the articles.
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